Maybe I think about phrasing far too much, but there’s this one phrase we say all the time that I think is subtly selfish.
It’s the simple phrase, “I wish you were here.”
And I know you’re thinking I’m crazy to find selfishness in this phrase that’s always used to mean one is missing a friend or loved one. Hey, I said that I might be over-thinking this! But let me explain.
It’s really subtle. Think about what the phrase says. “I wish you were here.”
Why not, “I wish I was there with you.”?
If you say you wish somebody was here with you, you’re really wishing they would change their plans and show up where you are.
If you wish you were there with somebody, it’s your own plans that you’re changing to be with someone.
Now, I don’t know, maybe you only miss that person enough to wish they’d come to you. But I doubt it.
Anyway. I see those odd looks. I said I was probably making something out of nothing!